Letting Go. Trust the Process.

Pain.

Addiction hurts, mental health struggles hurt—not just the person struggling, but the people who love them, too. At the heart of it all is pain. And pain doesn’t just fade away on its own; it can linger quietly for years, weighing on you and those around you, sometimes without you even realizing it. Healing starts with naming that pain and gently facing the denial, grief, and trauma that come with it.

Acceptance.

Letting go of a loved one can be incredibly hard, yet it is often the first step toward healing. To let go and “letting it be” does not mean giving up, being unkind, or turning away. It means accepting them as they are in this moment, and recognizing that you do not have the answers to their struggles today. In that acceptance, space opens for peace and healing—for them and for you.

Boundaries.

Each of us has our own hula hoop—our space of feelings, choices, and responsibilities. When a loved one struggles, it’s natural to want to step into theirs, but real change comes from staying in your own. Ask yourself: what helps me feel grounded right now? Maybe it’s a breath, a walk, or a moment of meditation. Focusing on your own well-being is where healing begins, and you can deepen this work by engaging in therapy or joining a support group to learn new ways of staying in your own hoop.